I would call that an admonishment, not discipline. 

OHhhhhhhhhh you tell someones child over here what to do the parents beat you up!

Sad state of affairs, but true.

The parents are as undisciplined as the kids. (me and mine included! heheh)

Seriously though if the wrong mum here heard you do that, they would have belted you one. Not all are like that, many are though.

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would call that an admonishment, not discipline.

be that as it may Dr G, you would still catch a klonk on the jaw here..... ouch!

My daughters (20) partner has an 8 year old girl that she plays mum to, the neighbour said something to the child (about being careful not to scratch his car or something), the partner went over there and knocked the bejeebies out of him and yelling racist abuse at his family.

I was shocked to say the least when my daughter related the story to me. Horrified at his behaviour and at my daughter for living with such a man. He was arrested though and charged. Serves him right. *wishing I could my daughter away from him*

You just never know how people are going to react over here. The neighbour was well within his rights to say something to the girl, she was kicking up gravel next to his car. I certainly would have said something if I were him.

be that as it may Dr G, you would still catch a klonk on the jaw here..... ouch!

I know your response is a very serious one, and I do understand. But klonk on the jaw? I love your coloquialisms!  

Nah, if I wasn't standing there it is perfectly fine for you to correct my kids....as long as you don't reach out and put your hands on them since you are a total stranger to them.

as long as you don't reach out and put your hands on them since you are a total stranger to them.

Basically my point.  But then we are not English, and so dont "klonk" too many people.

My daughters (20) partner has an 8 year old girl that she plays mum to, the neighbour said something to the child (about being careful not to scratch his car or something), the partner went over there and knocked the bejeebies out of him and yelling racist abuse at his family.

Now that's just ignorance there! But this is how some people react!


If you said that to my kids QOD I would not be upset. Truthfully I've practically said the same to kids who are around me and misbehaving or something. I really don't see anything wrong with that. If it was a more biosterous group then I would have gone to the Librarians as they would be the one to do something about that, especially if the parents are around.

What you said wasn't bad.

My kids aren't left places without me; they are always under my supervision (or the supervision of an approved adult who is specifically charged with looking out for them). If someone reprimanded my child while I was present and fully capable of dealing with the situation, I would not be pleased.

If for some odd reason I was not around, I would appreciate another adult gently reminding my children of the rules, particularly where safety is concerned.

I agree with Tova...NEVER put your hands on my child.

If someone reprimanded my child while I was present and fully capable of dealing with the situation, I would not be pleased.

What if you didn't see what they did?

I agree with Tova...NEVER put your hands on my child.

Oh, I'd never touch a child unless they were stepping in front of a moving vehicle!

Though, some parents, I'd love to give them a "klonk" or two.   

What if you didn't see what they did?

I think it would depend on how the person approached the problem. If I'm two steps behind my boys and you see one of them wipe a booger on the table, I would be perfectly happy with:

a) To my child: "Yucky. Don't wipe boogers on the table. You should clean that up." (At which point my child should get something to use to clean the table)

To me: "Excuse me, ma'am. I don't think you saw it, but your son just wiped a booger on the table."

(At which point I should apologize to you and instruct my child to get something to clean the table)

or both a and b.

Now if you saw that and started yelling at my child and going off on him with me 2 steps behind him, I'm going to be more pissed at YOU than I am at him.

(general "you", of course)

think it would depend on how the person approached the problem. If I'm two steps behind my boys and you see one of them wipe a booger on the table, I would be perfectly happy with

HAHAHAHA.

I'd just laugh at that Tex and give him a wink.

Our little secret...more room out than in!

I'd just laugh at that Tex and give him a wink.

LOL, it's the first example that popped into my head. Sad, huh?

more room out than in!

Hahaha. I have one that lives by that mantra!

Sometimes I have the urge to discipline an unruly child in public...but I don't. I just never know how the parent would react if they saw me doing this. But I've been tempted so much to do it. I think how you handled it would be pretty much like I would want to: firm but not overstepping your boundaries.

Children make me frustrated. Then again, it really leads back to parenting, doesn't it? I've run into some kids are are just downright unruly, disrespectful, and basically just a pain in the ass. I wouldn't dare hit the little shits, seeing as how I would really hurt them(my hand is as big as a dinner plate...to give you some idea of what I could do) and someone would bitch at me. I think these are the future assholes of the world. And chances are, they'll do very well...because, is it not assholes that run this world? Oh well, enough of my mini rant on children...on the other hand, well behaved kids are pretty cool...I don't mind them and when I get around to sowing my seed, I really hope I don't have an asshole kid.

Oh...and no, I don't think you did anything wrong...saying something is perfectly fine in my opinion.

~Zoo

Two words: cattle prod

Two words: cattle prod

Have you ever felt one? One one of my dumber days I put one on my finger. My entire arm was numb for about an hour. Nope that's a bit over the top of any child I seen... but the parent...hmmmm