Note: this is not related to anything that's going on here!
I've noticed lately that a friend of mine, a very good friend, is very judgmental. I don't like it but I don't want to call her on it. I've tried to be subtle, but it hasn't worked.
In one situation we were at the store and saw a couple that was very overweight. I notice them, but didn't make any judgment. She on the other had make a comment to me about them and how 'fat' they were. The thing is neither of us is skinny in any sense of the word. I thought as much but didn't make a scene of it.
On another occasion, we were walking out of the gym (had just used the pool) and she made a comment about all the men sitting around the weight room just gabbing. Something like, "do they come here just to talk?" The thing is all we do is swim a few laps and then hang around in the pool and then sit in the hot tub. This time I said, "well, we do do our fair share of chatting." She said, "touche." I really didn't mean it as a challenge.
I guess it's been hard on me. My habit for a long time has been to try and look at people and see the good. See their value in the world - which I believe most people have. I feel like I'm being dragged down.
So, what's your habit?
For one day will you try to see the good in everyone you meet? Will you compliment everyone you see? See what happens when you do and let me know.